The psychologist, the trainer of personal growth and the writer Paul Rander about what the stronger sex pays attention to first of all.

Today more and more people get acquainted on the Internet. This modern way of search of the soulmate helps much to find the happiness. But often takes away a lot of time for “bridging”.

In the new book “How to find love through “Instagram”. Flirtation on the Internet and not only” Paul Rander makes recommendations: how to become popular in social networks that on you the coolest guys sank down; what photos and video to upload in network to interest the potential partner. We publish a fragment from his new book in which Paul tells about how men estimate women according to photos in social networks.

On the photos and video which you upload in a social network on a public inspection in search of the groom you have to show what men most of all pay attention to.

So, to what your potential “prince” will pay first of all attention?

The matter is that when the man sees the beautiful woman, his brain begins to develop certain signals which promote production of testosterone and hormone of love and diligence of dopamine. This hormonal “shot” forces him to move, take some actions, decisions, to look after object of desire.

What pushes him on feats?

Main criteria very simple. The first – a figure “hourglasses” which indicate health of the woman he is interested in emergence of posterity. The second – if the woman is able to flirt, that is to show flexibility and grace of the body, then, respectively, sexual signals become especially bright and obvious. If she gives these sexual signals, then the man unconsciously reacts to them, he wants it or not. For example, if the girl when walking move hips, so at her healthy reproductive organs – the evolution mechanism so deciphers a male brain and, of course, too reacts. Also, under a sight of attention there are a beautiful smile, pleasant laughter during which the lady can widely open without ceremony a mouth, showing white teeth and pink language. These are too health signals which do not leave the man indifferent. The girl with painful teeth or with complexes will begin to cover a mouth with a hand or to smile with the closed mouth.

    Because of stiffness she produces stress hormone cortisol that too is sign of an illness. Gentlemen feel it and remain indifferent.

The man also pays attention to hair. If the girl shaved bare, then she loses not only charm, but one more most powerful sexual signal because the man too at the unconscious level determines by density and length of hair as far as she is healthy. It is not welcomed if the lady is made strongly up. Under a dense layer of foundation, the gentleman cannot determine sexual signals because pure, healthy leather at excitement reddens by skin color and its state.

    Also lips at passionate nervousness redden.

If lips are made densely up, then how the man will define its excitement? Also, the gait of the woman, her movement are important, for example, as she gets phone from a handbag, or goes out of the car, or throws a leg on a leg or as a shoulder will lead or as eats with pleasure. The man considers all these nuances at the choice of the partner.

So, that there was a successful shot in a love object, flirtation, a sexual signal, that is demonstration of force are necessary. And strength of the woman in what?

The formula of force equals to the weight increased by acceleration, that is by the skills increased by active living style, or, in a different way, the skills increased by actions, or by training flirting skills using Livejasmin cam service because interacting with opposite sex helps to improve communication skills in general. Mood is important – when the woman is happy, only then she is attractive. And it is not obligatory to be the super beauty queen.

    Undoubtedly, the age and external data matter, but are not on the first place.

Some girls consider that behind them men herds will run if they increase hair length,pump up lips, do tits and ass. Yes, they can sink down on all these “betas” at the first acquaintance. But, when they learn that all this is artificial, will run away because interest is gone.

Why? And present that expensive car stops near you, the man suggests to give a ride to you, you it is excited: “Oh, what interesting Man, in a fashionable suit, with smart hours”. You in the seventh heaven, he gallantly smiles to you, you get into the car, everything is good, you have an appointment. And suddenly you learn that at him all things are bought on credit, including a suit. Your reaction?

At once – Bach! – it was not lucky. Full disappointment and – good-bye. Here just the same reaction arises also at the man when he understands that all your delights artificial. They perceive it as deception. The same who treats plastic miracles normally are not enough.

The man can be struck not only unearthly beauty, but also emotional intelligence, that is understanding of his emotions and feelings.

However, in connection with development of the Internet the emotional intelligence does not develop because all of us communicate alive less. And the less interpersonal contacts, the more difficult for us to understand another person. Therefore, appears more and more lonely people hanging for days in network. If you want family, you get real, but not virtual acquaintances more.

But do not jump in a bed at once at all. Any man does not love readily available women. If you move away to him in the first day, he will begin to think that you refuse to nobody. At first, he has to flirt, show for you courtesies, present gifts and only then receive you as a prize. And sexual availability just also serves as other important reasons of loneliness and impossibility to start a family in time. Therefore, many also marry only after 30 years, and at this age they are already considered as oldie which in most cases cannot take out healthy posterity. And because of early pregnancy many teenage girls also abortion manage to make from what they become further infertile. As speak in the people: cannot give rise anymore because were acquired.

    And the man has same problems: the more at him was women, the quicker he becomes an impotent man.

Only present, we have in Russia 4 million infertile women from 39 million reproductive age for today. And reproductive age the period from 15 to 49 years is considered. Therefore, mine to you council: before agreeing to proximity, you go not on one, or perhaps to hundred appointments, but achieve that your gentleman began to respect you as the personality as the woman.

That there were long-term relations, the respect because then feelings in proximity will be others is necessary. Present that the man sleeps with the woman whom he not only wants, but also respects. What he will have feelings? He even to her will touch as the goddess!

The body of the man begins to develop more men’s hormones, from it even the erection improves. The proximity accepts absolutely other, bright paints. And if he just physically wants a female, then touches her as to a piece of meat. Some short-lived girls complain:

“From me he only needs it, and more than nothing. He even does not listen to me, does not hear”. When the man perceives you not only as the woman, but also as the personality then the relations become stronger, warm, emotional.